If you have the honor of being in a wedding party that usually means that someone very close to you is getting married and wants YOU to be by their side to support them on the big day! Though “party” may be in the name, being a bridesmaid or a groomsman is not just fun and games, it’s a very important role that can truly affect how the couple feels through their wedding planning process but ESPECIALLY on their wedding day! If this is your first time being in a wedding party or you just want to be the BEST wedding party member you can be, check out a few of our recommended Do’s and Don’ts of Being in a Wedding Party!
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DO: Support the Bride/Groom through any stressful emotions they have on their wedding day as well as the days leading up to it!
DON'T: Let the Bride/Groom’s emotions affect your emotions.
As we all know, stress can lead us to do and say things that we may not really mean. It may cause us to cry, to make things up in our mind as being worse than they really are, and can all in all truly affect our relationship with ourselves and others. Though wedding stress may not affect every bride or groom. If you notice that your friend is affected by the stress of the wedding, support them by being there to listen and help in any way they need. It’s also important to do your best to not let their emotions affect you and cause you to also become stressed, as you want to be a strong pillar for your friend through this and not be another cause of stress for them.
DO: Help the Bride/Groom always look and feel their best!
DON'T: Point out things that you think are a problem especially if they can’t be fixed.
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Be there to hold the bouquet, adjust the train & veil, to check that the boutonniere is pinned correctly, that they’re feeling hydrated, and of course happy! If you think something doesn’t look right, unless the Bride/Groom says something first, don’t point it out to them just for the sake of pointing it out. For instance, if you think that the ties that the groomsmen are wearing doesn’t match the shade of blue that the bridesmaids are wearing, don’t mention it to the Bride/Groom as this could just cause the couple to feel unhappy about something they never noticed and especially something that can’t be fixed. If the couple points out something that bothers them and it’s too late to be fixed, be there to reassure and remind them that regardless of the issue it’s still going to be a wonderful day because they’re marrying their best friend!
Tip: If the couple has a wedding planner/coordinator there on the day of the wedding, notify them on the "downlow" first so the couple isn't made aware/unnecessarily upset and the coordinator may be able to fix the issue!
DO: Prepare for the wedding and always be ready!
DON'T: Complain or bring attention to yourself.
Prior to the day of the wedding, make sure that you have all of the components of your attire, from your earrings to your shoes. The last thing that you would want is to cause the couple’s wedding timeline to get delayed due to a missing wardrobe item, so with preparing for the wedding you’ll be helping to make sure that you’ll be ready right on schedule! For many couples, their wedding day is a long awaited time in their lives that they’ve possibly gone through a lot of stress and other obstacles to get to. With that in mind, for the days leading up to and of course on the wedding day, be extra mindful of the conversations you’re having with your friend who’s getting married. Try not to complain about what’s happening in your life or bring attention to other events that may be happening. This time is dedicated to your friend, so do your best to keep the attention on them and be there to fully support them as they would do the same for you!
